Ever have one of those trying days? When parenting the kids resembles something more like herding cats or trying to hold sand? When silly, annoying things are overblown, when children aren’t listening, when the world seems to be conspiring against your home being a relaxed,happy place?
I have. Like plenty, ladies.
Sometimes I handle them in a righteous, Godly way, and sometimes I just go with what feels good and yell or punish, willy-nilly.
I don’t just want a happy home. I want a home filled with JOY.
Let me clarify what that means. That doesn’t mean everyone is walking around with a fake, plastered smile on their faces. But it does mean there are special, cozy places where everyone can get some quite, it means things are organized, it means disagreements can be discussed (calmly if possible!), and there is a sense of family unity; that despite what happens, we are a family and we will love each other and nurture that loving relationship.
But, many of us spend our days putting out fires. If it’s not one kid with a need, it’s a another. Or, a fight, or whining, or complaining, or…you get the picture.
Definitely NOT joy!
Why do our homes become this way? Why do we find ourselves in the middle of the third battle of the day by 9 a.m.? There are tons and tons of reasons, but I wanted to discuss just a few in this piece.
With my children, and maybe with yours too, the more free time they have on their hands, the more they argue with one another. One or both of them become bored and starts irritating the other one for sheer entertainment. “I was kidding,” he says to his annoyed brother. But really, he was probably was looking for something from his brother: connection and direction.
My kids have a so-called playroom. It has been a blessing as far as keeping most of the toys in one place, BUT, it can also become a dungeon of negativity for my boys if they are in there too long.