Every homeschool mom has a secret…or two. You know, things she doesn’t talk about in normal conversation and especially NOT with people who don’t homeschool for fear they would not understand, or even worse, judge.
I do. You do.
Things we are a little bit ashamed of about our homeschooling journey. I have experienced or felt all of the things we are about to discuss at some point during my homeschool journey (5 years).
The purpose of writing about it here is so that we can bring things out in the open and remind ourselves to not be ashamed of things we don’t need to be. Also, by sharing our feelings, moms, we can get help!
My kids act like they hate school
I have said this before…I thought when I began to homeschool, my kids would be so appreciative of my efforts on a daily basis, that they would sit down, ready for school each morning with smiles on their faces.
I know. It sounds silly.
They don’t. They still complain about school, give me a hard time, whine and resist doing work.
I had to realize…they are KIDS. Kids do that. It’s not your fault. It happens. What matters is how you handle it. But don’t be surprised when it happens.
Sometimes I don’t feel like doing school… for like for a week or two
I get tired of the school routine. I am a bit of a wander-lust, so after 2 or 3 months of the same routines and expectations…I get really bored. I need something different and interesting. That’s who I am . That’s not wrong. You, after all, are HUMAN, mom. You have needs too.
I have learned that if I go “school-lite” for a few days it helps tremendously. I make sure I get refreshed, it gives me new perspective and the kids can a break too.
My kids can be a little ‘weird’ sometimes
My kids get excited about some things. Like Mario and Minecraft, like the latest Youtube video they have seen about the “Secrets of Cats.” They want to talk about it. A lot. It can be off-putting to me…as well as their public school friends. Because, not surprisingly, their friends have other interests.
My older son is also completely capable of holding a debate (politics!) or discussion (the merits of all the game systems since the 1980’s) with any adult. Adults can be a little weirded-out by this. It’s actually a GREAT thing that he has this skill. And I always appreciate the adult who engages him and reacts with pleasure.
I have regrets about homeschooling or I feel like a failure
I wish that had done more outside stuff when they were young. I wish that I had spent more time in the Bible. I wish that I had focused more on writing.
If you have spent ANY time at all homeschooling, you have regrets and wishes. Things you wish you had done more or better.
All homeschool moms have this list.
I have felt like a failure…in many areas, mathematics, discipline, diligence… the list goes on. But when I look back I try to focus on the things we DID accomplish. The trips we have taken, the artistic creations that have made, and yes, even the math and language arts concepts we have pushed through
If you need help…ask for it. There are so many moms out there that have surmounted the same challenges you are struggling with whether it’s writing, division, reading, science, and daily routines.
Sometimes I am lonely or sometimes I get sick of being at home all the time
Being at home with your kids all day long can lose it’s appeal when you really need some grown-up time. It also takes dedicated to work to keep up friendships. You have needs, and it’s perfectly understandable to express them and seek out ways to meet them.
Sometimes when my husband comes home from work, I run away (to Target) because I need to out of the house! Just to SEE something different from my four walls lightens my mood and refreshes me. Maybe for you it’s a long walk, or working out, or listening to music or going for a long drive.
We need friendships. We need friends who homeschool and who don’t. We need women to talk to about our parenting challenges, to say “Am I crazy??” to and to receive support from. Don’t isolate!
I have really found some great friends at the children’s section in the the local library when I was there with the kids. I also am part of several support-type groups online. And then I have a group who I go out with.
We don’t mean to keep secrets. But we feel ashamed. Don’t worry, you are in good company – every homeschooler has these thoughts and feelings. You are not alone.